You want to tell the world about the great things happening in your life.
There’s a job opportunity you were looking to apply to and ended up telling your friends because if you get it, this could be the most money you ever made at a job.
Or you have a money-making business idea that you know will take off in your favor, and you share it with your family.
After all, these are your loved ones; what can go wrong?
Fast-forward a few months, and you didn’t get that job opportunity you were hoping to get, and unfortunately, that business idea fell through for you.
You then find out that your friend has the very great job you were looking to apply to making great money and that family member is suddenly interested in your business idea and wants to do it for themself.
Do you still not understand why things didn’t work out for you after you shared your plans? Let me explain.
Why You Should Stop Over Sharing
The reality is not everyone is clapping for you behind closed doors.
Some are happy when you fail, some are overjoyed to see you struggle, and some are secretly in competition with you.
When you decide to elevate, people get offended that you chose to do great things with your life instead of staying where you were.
People want to see you succeed but not do better than them.
They want to see you make it out of poverty, but not faster than them.
They want you to climb the ladder, but not further than them.
And when you beat the odds stacked against you, people get jealous.
People will try to figure out all the details of your life and use that information to get ahead of you.
And when you share your losses, the ones rooting against you are happy to know that you are falling behind in the secret competition they’ve created.
That’s why the most powerful thing you can do to protect your riches is to stop talking so much and move in silence.
In this article, I will share the downsides to oversharing your finances, why silence is the key to increasing financial motivation, and if you must share your news, know how, with whom, and when.
Cons of Over Sharing
You Become A Target
Financial scams are on the rise, and scammers are becoming smarter.
People who need money more than ever are doing whatever they can to get their hands on it.
You can put yourself in danger if you constantly talk too much about your money and how much you are making.
Because they know you have money, they are more likely to scam you or commit financial fraud against you.
Plans Fall Through
When you talk too much about what you are doing or the opportunities lined up for you in great detail before they happen, those opportunities may never manifest.
Plans change, and you may need to pivot, but if you previously announced your plans, which may have backfired, people may feel the need to bring old news up again.
This does not always feel good especially if you did your best with what you were given.
Users Will Try To Use
Some people don’t necessarily care about your well-being; they care only about what you can offer them.
When you are successful, people will enter your life to use your resources to get them where they need to go.
Once they’ve drained you, they’re off to the next person.
Your Money Is Now Their Money
Lastly, some people feel entitled to your money and don’t want you to forget about them.
It’s certainly okay to take care of your loved ones with your money, but don’t fall for those who may guilt trip about how much you owe them from way back when.
The ones who never ask how you’re doing but don’t mind reaching out to you whenever they need a loan, medical expense paid, or spending money for Jane’s birthday, but Jane already got money for her seven other birthdays that year.
Save yourself the pain and move in silence.
How To Stop Over Sharing Now
Not everyone needs to know every single thing happening with your finances.
Some circumstances are better left unsaid, and that is okay.
Moving in silence gives you significant advantages to building the life you want without any external distractions disturbing your peace.
To move in silence means to do the work without an audience. To work hard and build without speaking about what you’re up to.
This is powerful because it leaves the people who oppose you guessing your next move.
You can succeed without any interference from opposition.
Remember, not everyone is interested in your success, and unfortunately, this can include some friends and family.
Know When To Share, How and with Who
If you need to share or the time has come, timing is everything.
Share your news when your opportunity is concrete, and you live in it.
When the opportunity has since come and gone.
Even when you share, you want to leave some details a mystery for you to enjoy personally.
How To Share
If you decide to share your news, keep it brief and vague until the time has come to share.
And if some questions require detail, be vocal and address that you don’t feel comfortable sharing news before it happens.
Who To Share With
When sharing details about your finances, be very discerning about who you share it with.
Ensure that you share it with someone you trust and have observed their actions.
Actions speak louder than words and through actions you will understand who someone truly is.
Also, consider journaling your wins in a journal.
You can be as detailed and long-winded as you want without worrying about it backfiring later.
Sharing your good news is not a bad thing. Just be cautious of when and who you are sharing your news with.
Comment below an instance where you overshared or had to move in silence.
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